As a followup to my last note, I must address the issue of dependant brothers.
Webster's Dictionary defines dependant as one who relies on another for support. The listed variant of the word dependancy is habituation. I have no intentions of insulting your intelligence but I must go further into the wordage. We all know that habituation means to accustom or frequent a person, situation, place, etc. Can you say HABITATE, better yet, LIVE? Wow, a lot in so little. This, I must say, is why the Bible says that it is the small foxes that destroy the vine.
All men gain their existence from a woman. It is very rare for a man not to have a relationship with his mother or a female who nurtures him. He usually gains his definition of love from this female. And this is all fine and dandy because I am sure this was God's intention. Adam loved God first but loved Eve second. I find it funny that God didn't make another man to accomodate Adam's loneliness. He made a woman because she has amazing nurturing, loving, caring and healing skills. I still find it a bit confusing at times because God said that it was not good for man to be alone. Because technically, He wasn't alone. He had God and all of the animals. LOL But whatever the case, God made Eve and gave Adam his FIRST gift. I do believe that this was His reward for doing what God had instructed him to do prior - - which was to tend to the Garden, name the animals, etc. Man went to work - - Man got paid. As stated in the previous note - God didn't make Eve until after EVERYTHING was prepared for her. Eve was God's gift of love. Adam had to have someone to show him how to reciprocate his love for God to others. This is why, it is usually Mama who teaches the child to love God.
All that leads me into my subject: What happens when the boy never turns into a man? It causes a shaking in roles. This mostly occurs because "Mama" wouldn't let "baby" grow up. To explain, "baby" comes and "baby" has to have EVERYTHING "baby" wants no matter if "baby" deserves it or not. "
Baby" is too good for this, that, them, or her.
Even when "baby" doesn't work, it's okay because Mama will still foot the bill (even when Daddy says No).
Now here comes somebody blaming that mess on "baby" - - it's okay again because Mama will get "baby" out.
Now "baby" is grown married and has fathered babies and still depending on Mama because no matter how old he gets - - He's still Mama's "baby".
So what happens now? A man has never gotten the opportunity to become independant and now is living physically grown, doing grown folk things with a "baby" mentality. Now because "baby" has a good job, nice car and home, he's a sure pick for the woman looking for a husband. But wow, she didn't know - - "Baby" got that job because the boss is Mama's friend and the car/home is in Mama's name. So as soon as things get shaky in the marriage, Mama steps in because she is the Head of the Household. Now even if the wife never finds out, Mama is always working behind the scenes. She's making all of the decisions. WHICH GOD NEVER INTENDED FOR WOMEN TO BE THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE!!! Now on the flip side, some "babies" are so bosomly bound (lol) they NEVER leave home until they find another FEMALE to take Mama's place. ALL OF THIS FORCING WOMEN TO BECOME INDEPENDANT. Chain reaction/Dominino Effect
Earlier, I said that it was the small foxes that destroyed the vine. The vine produce fruit. The woman produce offspring. It's something that seems so small as letting go or letting your son grow up that can kill a generation of POWERFUL MEN. Because who knows, your son may become a doctor, pastor, lawyer, etc. However, as long as you are his prime decision maker - - we'll never know. I'm not saying not to help your child, but do it all in prayer. Ask God if you are not sure. In my last post, I stated that Men were built and women were fashioned. As I was typing this today, God said I expect men to build and women to fashion what I built.
Toodles and join me next time.
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